What comes to mind when you think of California girls? High maintenance, perfect tan having, kale eating, yoga freaks? You are probably right. Here are 9 reasons you should never date a California girl.
Get used to kale smoothies, 6am yoga sessions, and organic everything. Lazy days of Netflix and chill are long gone. Say hello to a 13-mile hike followed by an afternoon bike to the local farmer’s market. No more buffalo wings and nachos on game day, get used to the idea of chips, hummus, and guacamole.
If the thought of a quake, sends you running, a Cali girls probably aren’t for you. 3.0? Meh. 4.0? No biggie. Wake us when it is over 6.0. Most native Californians have lived through a few big ones, and she will think you are silly if you freak out over a little tremor.
“In-N-Out Forever” might be tattooed on here somewhere. We live and die for animal style fries and won’t be swayed. From car club meet-ups to hangover cures, In-N-Out is the only burger joint worth breaking the organic-only rules for.
Once is starts drizzling, prepare for the complaints. This is California, 75 degrees year round, we ain’t got time for that! Yes, we know we need it, and it keeps the earth pretty and green, but the constant “OMG DUDE its raining!!”, Facebook posts won’t end until the rain does.
Going to work? leggings and a tunic. Headed to yoga? Leggings and a racer-back tank. Going to the grocery store? Leggings and a hoodie. She probably isn’t headed to the gym, and she didn’t just leave the gym. It is comfy, versatile, and it is practically a California girls’ uniform. If you are preppy and like to get dressed up, it will be an uphill battle. She’s been around surfers and beach bums her whole life who live in board shorts and walk around shirtless, leggings are “dressed up”.
Well, most songs are written about California girls, so she has her reasons. I mean, who doesn’t want to be a California girl? From the Beach Boys to Katy Perry, being from California makes you feel extra special, so expect her to feel that way.
She probably went to high school with a celebrity, or at least takes a yoga class with one. Your non-speaking role in that hemorrhoid ad isn’t going to impress her. She’s shopped shoulder to shoulder with one of the Kardashians at farmer’s market, and done downward dog with Kate Hudson.
She knows what she wants and you know she logged it in MyFitnessPal. She’s got 800 calories left for the day to hit her goal so the barista better get it right. If you want to surprise her with her favorite drink? Better start studying because California girls are known for their complicated orders. Just another part of the lifestyle.
Once a Cali girl, always a Cali girl. No other state has perfect year round weather, a two-hour drive that separates a beach day from a ski day, and it’s not likely she is giving up her surfing anytime soon.
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You and your S.O. may have traveled together in the past, but your honeymoon isn’t just any trip. It’s most likely longer, more exotic, and more expensive than your previous vacations, meaning it deserves just as much careful attention as your wedding day. That’s where a travel agent comes in. Hiring a travel agent for your honeymoon will help make planning this once-in-a-lifetime trip almost as enjoyable as the trip itself.
Beyond just booking flights and hotel rooms, they can give you insight into the most romantic destinations, the best activities and excursions, and those memory-making moments that you might not experience otherwise. So let’s let the pros themselves walk us through all the reasons you should hire a travel agent for your honeymoon.
Chest pain can make it feel like your body has pressed a panic button, especially when it seemingly strikes out of nowhere. Here’s the good news: Chest pain can actually happen due to a slew of causes, including quite a few that aren’t too hard to treat. (Translation: Don’t just resign yourself to having a heart attack, because that’s absolutely not the only possibility here.)
It’s pretty normal to have some chest pain at some point in your life, Susan Besser, M.D., a primary care physician at Mercy Medical Center in Baltimore, tells SELF. After all, your body has a lot going on in that region. That doesn’t mean chest pain is something to ignore, though. You should always get it checked out, Kimbra Bell Balark, M.D., assistant professor of clinical medicine at Northwestern University Medical School, tells SELF. Even if you feel like you’re in great health, there are so many important organs in and around your chest that it’s always worth seeing a doctor about pain in that area, she explains.
To ensure you’re walking into your doctor’s appointment with as much information as possible, here are some of the biggest reasons random pain might bubble up in your chest.
Gastroesophageal reflux disease (GERD) happens when your stomach acid frequently flows back up into your esophagus, the tube that connects your mouth and stomach, according to Mayo Clinic. This backwash is called acid reflux or even simply just reflux. You get into GERD territory when you experience mild acid reflux at least twice a week, or a moderate to severe form at least once a week, the Mayo Clinic says.
Acid reflux can irritate the heck out of your esophageal lining. If you have it, say hello to a terrible burning sensation, aka heartburn, and chest pain, along with symptoms like difficulty swallowing, feeling like there’s a lump in your throat, and even possibly regurgitating some food or sour liquid.
GERD is actually the most common cause of non-cardiac chest pain, causing up to 66 percent of chest pain that isn’t related to heart issues, according to the Cleveland Clinic. If you think you have it, definitely mention the burning in addition to chest pain when you see your doctor. That will help them determine the kinds of diagnostic tests you might need, like an upper endoscopy, which uses a thin tube to see down your throat into the inside of your esophagus and stomach. From there, they can recommend treatment options to get rid of the burning and chest pain and help your inflamed esophagus heal.
Sometimes it’s hard to tell breast pain from chest pain. For instance, there’s cyclic breast pain, which is linked to your menstrual cycle. Some people develop tender breasts right before their periods thanks to hormonal changes, Jessica Shepherd, M.D., an ob/gyn at Baylor University Medical Center at Dallas, tells SELF. This can be most uncomfortable leading up to your period, and the feeling can range from an ache to actual WTF-level pain. A non steroidal anti-inflammatory drug like Motrin should help, Dr. Shepherd says, but if you notice that you're having severe pain at this time every month, you should talk to your doctor.
Non-cyclic breast pain isn’t associated with your period, and it can happen due to things like a hardcore workout that taxes your pectoral muscles. Similarly, taking an NSAID can help with this kind of pain—but if the soreness is unexpectedly intense or you’re experiencing sharp pain that might signal an injury instead, check in with your doctor.
People might think asthma is just about breathing troubles, but this respiratory condition can cause chest pain, too. Asthma affects the airways that go from your nose and mouth to your lungs. When people with asthma are exposed to triggers, like dust, cold air, pollen, and mold, their airways might narrow, making it hard for them to breathe, according to the National Heart, Lungs, and Blood Institute (NHLBI). Asthma triggers can also make the muscles surrounding your airways constrict and inflame your airways, causing them to produce more mucus.
With all that in mind, it’s no wonder that chest pain or tightness are common asthma symptoms, according to the Mayo Clinic. Some people with asthma even say that their lungs feel achy, Dr. Besser says. Beyond that and trouble breathing, asthma can also cause wheezing (a whistling sound when you breathe) and coughing.
If you’re grappling with chest pain and other disruptive symptoms like a persistent cough and wheezing, talk to your primary care physician about the possibility that you might have asthma. They can do some tests to measure your lung and airway function, then move on to treatment that can help you breathe as well as possible.
Panic attacks are terrifying episodes involving sudden bouts of intense anxiety or fear that may also come with physiological symptoms, according to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America.
Everyone experiences panic attacks differently, but they often come with feelings of impending doom, shortness of breath, heart palpitations, and chest pain. “This is a common reason why people go to the ER and say that they feel like they’re having a heart attack,” Dr. Balark says.
If you’re worried you might be having a heart attack—whether or not you think the sensation is stemming from a panic attack—get yourself to an emergency room immediately. It’s hard for the average person to know the difference between a panic attack and an actual heart attack, Dr. Besser says, but a medical professional can figure out which you’re dealing with and do their best to help you either way.
Pneumonia is an infection that inflames the air sacs in your lungs, which are just trying to help you breathe to your best ability. The sacs can fill with fluid or pus, causing a cough, fever, chills, and difficulty breathing, the Mayo Clinic says.
Unfortunately, pneumonia can also cause sharp, stabbing chest pain that gets worse when you breathe deeply or cough, according to the American Lung Association. Talk about a vicious cycle.
If you do indeed have pneumonia, it’s unlikely that chest pain would be your only symptom, Dr. Balark says. You’d typically be dealing with some of the other signs mentioned above that more clearly point to an upper respiratory infection. Either way, if you suspect that you have this issue, see your doctor ASAP for diagnosis and medication to kick the infection. Pneumonia can be serious and even fatal if it goes untreated.
This happens when air gets into your pleural space (the area between your lung and your chest wall), according to the U.S. National Library of Medicine. That air then pushes on the outside of your lung and actually makes it collapse, the Mayo Clinic says.
Most of the time, only a portion of the lung collapses, which may not cause any symptoms. It’s also possible for a larger portion or the whole lung to cave in, in which case your body will likely sound the alarm with sudden chest pain and shortness of breath. The pain comes from tension on your nerves in and around your lung and the pressure of the “escaped” air from your collapsed lung on your chest wall, Dr. Besser says.
Collapsed lungs don’t typically just happen—there are a few risk factors to keep in mind, like a chest injury or damaged lung tissue from a condition like pneumonia and chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (commonly known as COPD, this is a group of lung diseases like chronic bronchitis and emphysema), according to the Mayo Clinic.
If your doctor suspects you have a collapsed lung, they’ll give you a chest X-ray or CT scan to see what’s going on in there, the Mayo Clinic says. Depending on the severity of your collapsed lung, they’ll devise a treatment plan with the goal of relieving that painful pressure.
Angina isn’t a disease—it’s a feeling. This chest pain or discomfort, which is often a sign of heart disease, happens when your heart muscle doesn’t get enough oxygen-rich blood, according to the American Heart Association. It can feel like pressure or squeezing in your chest, or general discomfort in your shoulders, arms, neck, jaw, or back.
There are two kinds of angina: Stable and unstable, the Mayo Clinic says. Stable angina happens when you exert yourself physically, usually feels similar to chest pain you’ve had in the past, most likely lasts five minutes or less, and disappears if you rest or take angina medication. Unstable angina can be unexpected and happen even when you rest, last 30 minutes or longer, may feel more severe than chest pain you’ve experienced before, and can signal a heart attack.
If you think you have either form of angina, you need to see a doctor to get evaluated. Usually that involves an electrocardiogram (a recording of electrical signals as they travel through your heart), a stress test (a measure of your blood pressure or electrocardiogram as you exercise), an echocardiogram (which uses sound waves to produce images of your heart), or a chest X-ray, the Mayo Clinic says. But if you suspect you’re specifically having unstable angina, you need to get to an ER immediately in case it’s due to a heart attack. Before you decide your chest pain is definitely angina, keep this in mind: If you’re young and otherwise healthy, it’s probably not. “Most healthy young people who experience chest pain are more likely to have benign causes,” Jennifer Haythe, M.D., assistant professor of medicine and co-director of the Women's Center for Cardiovascular Health at Columbia University Medical Center, tells SELF.
You’ve probably heard that pulmonary embolisms are scary, but you may not know exactly what they are. A pulmonary embolism happens because of a blockage in a pulmonary artery in your lung, and it typically occurs when a blood clot travels to the area from one of your legs, according to the Mayo Clinic.
Pulmonary embolisms usually cause symptoms like shortness of breath, a cough, and chest pain. The chest pain can make you think you’re having a heart attack, and it may get worse when you take a deep breath, cough, bend, or stoop over, the Mayo Clinic says. It will also usually get worse when you exert yourself, but confusingly won’t go away when you rest.
Other signs that you might be dealing with a pulmonary embolism can include leg pain or swelling, fever, excessive sweating, a rapid heartbeat, and dizziness. Basically, your body will likely let you know you’re having an emergency, which does basically sum up a pulmonary embolism. This kind of blockage can impede blood flow to your lungs, meaning it can be life-threatening. This sounds really scary, and it is. But as the Mayo Clinic notes, prompt treatment really boosts the chances of surviving a pulmonary embolism.
If you suspect you have a pulmonary embolism, get to the ER immediately. There, doctors will likely give you a chest X-ray or CT scan to diagnose it, then figure out the best way to dissolve or remove the clot.
This one is last on the list because there are so many other less worrisome things that could be your chest-pain culprit. With that said, yes, sometimes chest pain actually is a sign of a heart attack, so it’s worth reading up, just in case.
We’ve all been there: You go on a first date, walk away thinking you really hit it off, then never hear from the person again.
Was it something you said? Should you brush it off and just assume your date is rude as hell? We’ve got answers for you. Below, dating coaches and matchmakers from around the country share nine simple reasons you were ghosted right off the bat.
You may have felt sparks right away but that doesn’t necessarily mean the feeling was mutual, said Jenny Apple , a matchmaker in Los Angeles.
“The truth is, half the singles I work with tell me they just aren’t physically attracted to the person they met and don’t feel the need to explain or hurt someone’s feelings with a text or call,” she said. “My advice is to not take it personally. For every person who doesn’t find you attractive, there are another few that do.”
Don’t go to the dark side by discussing your ex or past relationships on a first date, even fleetingly, said Fay Goldman, a matchmaker based in New York City.
“No one wants to hear you wallowing or expressing anger,” she said. “Your date might start to picture themselves as the recipient of your anger one day and that will send her heading for the hills fast.”
We all get worked up and antsy about first dates. There’s a lot on the line: This could be your person, the man or woman you go on to spend your whole life with. That may be true, but you’ll do more damage than good if you fire off a series of questions meant to suss out if they’re “the one,” said Neely Steinberg , a dating coach and the author of Skin In the Game: Unleashing Your Inner Entrepreneur to Find Love.
“Nobody wants to feel like they’re on a job interview when trying to make a romantic connection with someone,” she said. “Sometimes singles think they need to know everything up front about their date, but it puts the other person on defense and makes the flow of conversation feel a lot less organic. Keep it light!”
The simplest reason your date didn’t text you back, according to Apple? They’re simply a rude, inconsiderate person.
“Most people who ghost are most likely either not ready to be a responsible and accountable partner or they have other priorities ― maybe they reconnected with their ex or decided they are going to play the field,” she said. “In any case, those are all reasons to be grateful you didn’t end up together.”
There’s a reason coffee shops are common for first date spots: Drinking coffee doesn’t take a whole lot of time, leaving each person intrigued and wanting to know more about the other when the date is through. That’s the reason dating expert and author Damona Hoffman tells clients to keep their first dates under an hour or two.
“You want to leave the energy at a high point,” she said. “A date should feel like it’s ending in the middle. That way, there will be more for your date to discover about you if you see each other again.”
Maybe you were on your phone all night, texting your BFF about plans for later in the evening. Maybe you didn’t make eye contact or spent the whole dinner looking like you had better things to do. Those examples are just the sort of disengaged behavior that turns people off on first dates, said May Hui , co-founder of Catch Matchmaking in Southern California
“Someone who doesn’t make eye contact especially can come off as aloof or uninterested and it makes your date uncomfortable,” Hui said. “Your date probably thought you were rude.”
Being late to a date is never a good look, said Samantha Burns , a dating coach in the Boston area.
“Everyone deals with traffic, getting stuck on work projects and second-guessing their outfit choices, but showing up late, especially without a call or text, suggests you’re not considerate of other people’s time,” she said. “Would you show up late to a job interview and expect to be invited to a second round? Leave yourself a buffer and be respectful of your date’s schedule.”
In our swipe-left-swipe-right dating culture, it’s easy to get cynical and tire of looking for someone worth your time. If you start to feel less than enthused about meeting new people, remind yourself that you’re entitled to be choosy.
“When you find yourself being ambivalent or cynical going into a date, it’s usually time to take a break, do some tweaking to your dating style and learn more about yourself,” said Deb Besinger, a dating coach who works primarily with women over 40. “My number one dating mantra is, ‘You have to be invested in the process or person without being attached to the outcome.’”
Remember: You have just as much a say in scheduling a second date as the other person does. If you want to see them again, let them know, said Laurel House, a dating coach and the author of Screwing the Rules: The No-Games Guide to Love.
“The so-called ‘rules’ have us so screwed up that sometimes you’re both sitting there wondering who is going to reach out first and then neither of you do because you’re waiting for the other to act,” she said. “Ignore ‘the rules’ and send a text the next morning to say ‘thank you for drinks and that you’d love to see them again.’ Sometimes, that’s all it takes.”
Globalization, travel and educational initiatives to promote integration with the world, such as various student scholarships, and other similar projects designed to facilitate the internationalization of ideas and business, have resulted, in recent years, the increasing number of couples of different nationalities.
Psychologists claim that the relationships with a stranger for many are beautiful and different from those who achieve the relationship with people of the same nationality, just because it’s something new, unknown, and it sometimes seems exotic.
Some people like unusual, who are excited by uncertainties, and their relationship with a stranger is more satisfying than a relationship with a person of the same environment.
Undoubtedly, having a partner from another country can get to enrich you a lot, the contribution to the relationship of a different worldview, new customs, different times or exotic gastronomy. A luxury that can go slowly discovering in your home from the hand of your love. But, how do they understand each other?